Source: Self-Compassion - Kristin Neff Bold italicized sentences indicate book quotes. Why are so many of us so hard on ourselves? It feels counter-intuitive. We want to succeed and become the best versions of ourselves. It makes no sense to self-sabotage with self-destructive thinking. Kristen Neff, psychologist and self-compassion specialist, suggests a straightforward explanation for … Continue reading Self-Protective Self-Criticism
Back in January, a co-worker of mine lent me a book - The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I crushed it in a weekend, basking in insight while pickling in uncomfortable ideas. But I enjoyed it so much, I cracked open their second installment - The Courage to Be Happy.In … Continue reading Chewing Over Adler – Trauma Does Not Exist
In the self-help community, the word “optimal” surfaces as a staple buzzword - especially in the introduction to the Tim Ferriss Show. YouTube videos all contain titles that suggest optimal performance tips. “The optimal way to lose weight.” “The optimal way to grow huge muscles.” “The optimal way to study.” “The optimal way to teach.” … Continue reading The Perils of Optimal
It can be difficult to pin down what defines the “self” when we examine consciousness. People often use metaphorical alter-egos and multiple selves to explain their behavior. “You don’t know him how I know him. He shows me a completely different side.” “I’m sorry. I am not myself today.” “Have you met my drunk alter-ego? … Continue reading Captain Fatass
We hear it all the time - the trite and tired advice of self-help blogs, books, and videos. “You have to be the best version of yourself.” “Just be yourself.” “Stay true to yourself.” At a cursory, surface-level glance, this advice appears self-evident. Of course, we should seek authenticity rather than confine ourselves to roles … Continue reading “Be Yourself”
The Merriam-Webster online dictionary defines a “hypocrite” as a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. In this respect, I often feel deep pangs of hypocrisy during my self-improvement journey. I don’t mean this in the traditional way our society calls out hypocrisy. For example, a married, conservative politician who … Continue reading I Am a Hypocrite
After countless hours of self-improvement Youtube consumption, I can stumble upon contradictions. I remember that personal growth is not one-size-fits-all. One such contradiction contrasts deep work with the Pomodoro technique. Deep work, as explained by Dr. Cal Newport, calls for sustained, uninterrupted blocks of time for profound productivity. Multitasking is inefficient. Rather than processing multiple tasks … Continue reading Deep Work or Frequent Breaks?