Self-Protective Self-Criticism

Source:  Self-Compassion - Kristin Neff Bold italicized sentences indicate book quotes. Why are so many of us so hard on ourselves?  It feels counter-intuitive. We want to succeed and become the best versions of ourselves. It makes no sense to self-sabotage with self-destructive thinking. Kristen Neff, psychologist and self-compassion specialist, suggests a straightforward explanation for … Continue reading Self-Protective Self-Criticism

Chewing Over Adler – Trauma Does Not Exist

CLICK HERE for an opposite, measured interpretation. Back in January, a co-worker of mine lent me a book - The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I crushed it in a weekend, basking in insight while pickling in uncomfortable ideas.  But I enjoyed it so much, I cracked open their second … Continue reading Chewing Over Adler – Trauma Does Not Exist

The Perils of Optimal

In the self-help community, the word “optimal” surfaces as a staple buzzword - especially in the introduction to the Tim Ferriss Show. YouTube videos all contain titles that suggest optimal performance tips. “The optimal way to lose weight.” “The optimal way to grow huge muscles.” “The optimal way to study.” “The optimal way to teach.” … Continue reading The Perils of Optimal

Deep Work or Frequent Breaks?

After countless hours of self-improvement Youtube consumption, I can stumble upon contradictions.  I remember that personal growth is not one-size-fits-all. One such contradiction contrasts deep work with the Pomodoro technique. Deep work, as explained by Dr. Cal Newport, calls for sustained, uninterrupted blocks of time for profound productivity.  Multitasking is inefficient.  Rather than processing multiple tasks … Continue reading Deep Work or Frequent Breaks?

The Benefits of Systems Over Goals

I gleaned many of these insights from Atomic Habits by James Clear.  It’s a short read sardine-packed with golden behavior change wisdom. As 2019 dawns, the leaf-littered ground makes way for snow, and I slowly grow more layers of clothing until I resemble a waddling Michelin man, I imagine millions of people enacting New Year's resolutions. … Continue reading The Benefits of Systems Over Goals