You have to realize that happiness is not something you find at the end of the road. You have to understand that it is here, now. Thich Nhat Hanh, You Are Here I've said it often, and I'll say it again - mostly because I haven't internalized this message. Happiness is not a worthwhile goal. We should … Continue reading Quoterday – The Road to Happiness
Wonderful things are especially wonderful the first time they happen, but their wonderfulness wanes with repition. -Daniel Gilbert, Stumbling On Happiness Enjoying holiday candies and cookies can be wonderful. When I am at home and I bite into that first fresh-baked chocolate chip cookie, my taste buds ascend into heaven. A sip of milk makes … Continue reading Quoterday – How Wonderful Are Wonderful Things?
Don’t be the person who is waiting for this, that, or the other thing to happen before she can be happy. Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness It is a hard-fought lesson that tries me daily. Slowly I struggle to surrender this toxic idea - I need validation, achievement, or justification to be happy. "I … Continue reading Quoterday – Happiness Is Never On-Time
Nothing is miserable unless you think it so; and on the other hand, nothing brings happiness unless you are content with it. -Jonathan Haidt - The Happiness Hypothesis "Nothing is miserable unless you think it so." I can see the criticism now. "Yeah, but what about people living with objectively horrific circumstances?" "It's easy to … Continue reading Quoterday – Finding Happiness Through Contentedness
You can’t offer happiness until you have it for yourself. So build a home inside by accepting yourself and learning to love and heal yourself. --Thich Nhat Hanh, How to Love If we do not know how to love ourselves, how can we possibly understand how to love others? “But love is about putting others’ … Continue reading Quoterday – Build A House Within
In a past post, I described my shifting priorities and schemata related to happiness. As I continue to read up on the science of happiness, one finding stands out. The active pursuit of happiness could actually make us less happy. How could this be? It is counter-intuitive to nearly any other goal-achievement system. If one … Continue reading The Futile Pursuit of Happiness
In my young adult years leading up to Korea, I learned painful lessons that nonetheless provided me gratitude. Each precipitating event slowly pushed me towards the life I am living today. Now I flourish in a new land feeling more alive than I have ever been. However, despite my hard-fought insights in pursuit of a … Continue reading Happiness – A Revaluation of Values (Part Two)
What truly makes us happy? Some say it is relative. What makes us happy varies from person to person. Others that say happiness is a choice - it results from how we elect to appraise our current situation. In other words, do we spend more time reflecting on what we are grateful for or … Continue reading Happiness – A Revaluation of Values (Part One)